Wednesday, 14 May 2014

The Youtuber/Blogger Community – Thoughts on Sprinkle Of Glitter’s Video

I clicked on the latest Sprinkle Of Glitter video this weekend without really thinking about it. I really like Louise – I think she’s bubbly and chatty and her videos are good fun – but this one in particular really struck a chord with me, and I wanted to write a little post to say how much I support it (go and watch it here).

She talks about girls who comment on photographs of herself and her friends – the ‘famous’ Youtubers and bloggers – putting things like ‘I wish I was you,’ or ‘I idolise you.’ As she put it, in a funny yet oddly poignant way, ‘Don’t! You shouldn’t!’ And the reason it struck a chord with me is that I have noticed a huge increase recently, particularly on mediums like Instagram and Bloglovin’, in girls writing comments like that – ‘Can’t I just be you?’ ‘Why don’t I have your life?’ ‘It’s not fair, why are you so perfect?’

There’s nothing wrong with being a fan of someone, and if you look at photographs of Louise and think ‘wow, I’d really like curly, pink dip-dyed hair,’ or ‘she’s really pretty, I wonder what lipstick she uses,’ then great, that’s just using someone as your inspiration and that’s fine. But to look at someone and actually feel upset that you are you, not them – I think that’s really sad, and more dangerously, it’s artificial. It’s a fantasy, as false as looking at an airbrushed photograph of a stick thin model and wishing you looked like them. People’s internet lives are not reality. It really brought into mind this quote for me...

Louise has beautiful hair and her daughter is super cute and her pink bedroom is beautiful. Similarly her friend Zoe, or Zoella, gets a LOT of this stuff, and now don’t get me wrong – I think she’s beautiful, and her flat looks lovely, and she has two cute guinea pigs and a good looking, equally Youtube famous boyfriend.

But… and I think herein lies the rub…that’s just the stuff they choose to show you. It’s really easy to take an Instagram photo of a strawberry milkshake in a jam jar with a pink and white straw, balanced on a pretty copy of The Perks Of Being A Wallflower, and you post it and people think that’s your life – which obviously, to a degree, it is. And that part of life is lovely and deserves appreciating. As do cute guinea pigs and babies, good hair days, tidy flat days, and the times when you make a meal and suddenly think ‘God, I should’ve been on Masterchef.’  

But I think it’s important to remember their lives – just like your life – will also consist of early mornings when you don’t want to get up, and cleaning the bath, and trying to find your keys in your handbag when you’ve just painted your nails, and those days when your make up looks wrong and you just don’t know why, and arguing with your boyfriend because you knew you were going to miss the train, and eating grated cheese out of the packet and finding a rogue hair growing out of your chin and getting dressed in clothes you found in a pile on the floor and spending an entire hour on the phone to your electricity company and wishing you looked like Mila Kunis, even though she does all these things too.

Ultimately, we’re all human. I’m not a big blogger, but I’ve still had a couple of ‘your blog always makes me feel jealous,’ type comments, and I find that bizarre enough, so god knows how huge bloggers and Youtubers deal with this kind of next-level admiration. It’s a weird feeling, because people are jealous, but they’re jealous of something that just isn’t real. A life that doesn’t exist.

I suppose all I’m trying to say is that we’re all human, nobody is perfect, and elevating people onto a perfect level makes you feel bad and them feel awkward. Louise and Zoe are lovely, pretty girls, but they’re not perfect. You are enough, without needing to be anyone else – you are good enough just the way you are.

Okay…I’m climbing down from my soap box now – thank you for reading!  

(Pictures from Pinterest)


  1. this was a really great post, and i totally agree 1000%

  2. I think you raise a lot of important points - there's nothing wrong with aspiring to something or having goals but it should be for yourself not to become like someone else's public persona, which will always be different from the real person.... :o) Xx

    Makeup by Candlelight

  3. Wow, Louise's video struck a chord with you and your post struck a chord with me! I totally know what you mean and would have loved to write something similar, but I'm not as eloquent as you are. I am 100% in agreement and am at one with both your quotes. We only see a snippet of Louise and Zoe's lives, so to compare our own is a dangerous fantasy. I do understand the other side of it, too, though. Why people are so obsessed and why people wish their lives were like the celebrities they look up to. I can relate. But what you write is so true and I couldn't have put it any better.

  4. Such a good post, it's so important to remember that we only see what people choose to share on the internet - and to an extent, in real life as well!

    Jess xo

  5. Best post I have read in a while
    L x

  6. I think Zoella saw this and followed up on it, what a lovely post!

  7. very motivating phrases!!

    x Maria
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  8. This subject seems to get more prominent every week. I also noticed the extent of "I want your life" comments on big bloggers/youtubers and it is concerning, somehow. I mean, I grew up without internet and a mobile phone. I know what it's like to have a life "without" the internet. But the current teens and youngsters basically grow up in front of the sheer endless possibilities of the interwebs & the possibility of having a lot more self doubt problems while browsing through 'perfect' instagram feeds. I wish somebody would tell them that instagram is just like a 'game of life': in many cases it's just about the superficial, the beautiful things you can take a picture of or new products you can show off. This isn't bad per se, but it also should be known that is just a tiny quarter of the person's life. We all create a certain image online, but we do not have to show everything. Also, I love youtubers like Rose Ellen Dix or Roxetera, who are actually known for their comedic videos, but also do some real life talk and it's so uplifting.

    Okay, sorry, the comment got longer than I intended it to be :S Just too many thoughts in my head! :)

  9. This is such a beautiful, well-written post. I think the Internet is a wonderful resource. I have so many favorite bloggers that inspire me, that I look up to, that I hope to emulate. But there is such a fine line between admiration and being insecure in your own skin. I haven't seen Louise's video, but I'll have to go watch it! I completely agree--it's important to realize that bloggers, YouTubers, what have you, show the whole world a very small portion of their lives. Certainly the true is the same for me in my own blog, and I just hope the wonderful people who take the time to read understand that. Thank you for such an inspiring read! Thank you as well for taking the time to stop by my blog, The What's In Between. I'm so glad you did because I was able to discover your amazing posts! xx

    The What's In Between

  10. You are so, so right. I think it's incredibly easy not just for younger girls but also for older girls to be jealous of youtubers. When we have more than our fair share of bad luck, or when things aren't going to plan in our own lives then it's youtube that people often turn to, and although this is relaxing and entertaining, I can't help feeling like it only highlights our insecurities, our annoyances and our unhappiness more because we just think; why can't MY life be like that? Well the thing is, it is. Everyone has their ups and downs and I'm sure if we made a video of the highlights of our week then it would look just as positive and happy as the vlogs of Zoe & Louise etc.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think it's so important for all viewers acknowledge when they're letting a youtuber's (or a blogger's) 'life' or internet 'image' dictate and affect their own too much. I am way too guilty of this having recently started a blog, and I still haven't found my voice yet, probably because I've let other blogs make me feel disheartened and insignificant which is just not right.

    Anyway thanks for a lovely, insightful post! Hope you don't mind the long comment :P

    Imogen // imogenscribbles

  11. This post was really insightful and thought-provoking. I recently did a campaign assignment at university which kind of tackled the issue of insecurity and not appreciating ourselves enough. We are so blinded by what we see in the media today and letting it eat our soul up so much that we now live in an artificial bubble- pretending to be, or wanting to be someone we are not. And the mental and physical side effects this has on us is truly heart-breaking :/

    Great post! I love reading things like this as it should be spoken about more often!



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